The last few weeks, I’ve been struggling through creating a memorial video for a dear family friend. In January, I wrote this post after Miss Pat was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Since that time, she has gone through chemo treatments only to be told last week that the chemo is not working and there is nothing more the doctors can do but make her last days as comfortable as possible.

I feel blessed to have the skills to create this memorial video but it is likely the most difficult project I have ever worked on — for work or for personal reasons. My mom volunteered me for the job, and I of course accepted. But this is a pure labor of love on my part. Going through thousands of photos and listening to hundreds of songs, trying to find the right mix to reflect Miss Pat’s personality and love for her family, friends and husband of more than 40 years, is a challenge of monumental proportions.

I am thankful for the time we’ve been given to prepare this with Miss Pat still with us. She has been an encouragement and constant reminder of how important our faith is to making the inevitable more calming. I’m thankful for the time we’ve been given with Miss Pat over the last few months. I’m thankful for the opportunity this has given me to look back over our lives and remember wonderful times spent together — vacations, holidays, long weekends. I’m thankful for a couple like Miss Pat and Big Dave who loved me as their own children.


Labor of Love

With Labor Day upon us, I can’t help but think about my grandmother. I wrote a little about her here. A special woman, she passed away in 1984 over Labor Day weekend. She was a strong, amazing woman who worked hard all her life. The wife of a farmer and traveling pastor as well as mother to five children, my grandmother didn’t spend a lot of time pampering herself. She was the stereotypical housewife but to this day I cannot think of a single person who deserved more happiness and compassion than she did. I hope I am half the woman she was, and pray that someday I can be the model for my children and grandchildren that she was for me.